Ms. Carlyn Einsel

Today's blog is about someone very few of you knew, but should have.  it's about a friend of mine that passed a few days ago.     Ms. Carlyn Einsel of Maryland.    Ms, Carlyn was an extraordinary woman who led a long and respected life.  She  was a teacher, both of the school variety and of life.  She is the mother of my best friend from Maryland.   Ms Carlyn taught elementary school  and taught open hearth pioneer style cooking & other crafts.   More importantly she taught people how to treat one another with respect and unconditional love.  She helped her daughter Holly (aforementioned friend) to get past biases,etc. and to become a great friend to me.She took care of my daughter  after my stroke and Sarah's mom was at work.  She always made sure Sarah was well cared for. I Will always be indebted to her for that.  She exposed Sarah to things like "scones&Tea" at a local tea shop.She was friendly with everyone she met.  Most importantly, she molded into and taught my friend Holly how to be the great friend she is to me.  THANK YOU Ms. Carlyn for what you contributed to my life, for that, you will live on always!

IMIGRATION thoughts

I realize this is one of the big issues and a very tender one at that.   So, despite my instincts otherwise, here I go.......   There are two distinct sides here
1.  against it
2.  For it
But it doesn't have to be that way.  There are various shades of both sides.  The facts are;     There are both illegal and legal imigrants  in the  U.S.   They are NOT the same folks.   There are  over twenty  MILLION illegals here.   Although many are of a hispanic origin, they are not all Mexicans.   They  do put a drain on infrastructure  (schools,roads,water supply,police/fire,etc), They DO pay taxes   (sales&other misc) but do NOT pay income tax. 

Sadly, some folks objection to immigrants illegal or legal is based on race.  There are others, myself included,    who's objection is $$ related.

Okay, how do we solve it?     Let's start with what we CANNOT do........
1.    cannot  round up 20,000,000 hiding folks, the logistics alone prevents that.
2. cannot just turn our heads and offer free & clear amnesty.

What can we do ?   none of these solve the problem by themself.
1.  FIRST   We   TIGHTEN up the borders. and     not some hokey fence either.      2.  We create a comprehensive process that assimilates those  aforementioned 20 million .
3.  as part B of  1 and 2, We streamline the process that enables new immigrants tobecome citizens, full taxpaying citizens.   One thing that is  NOT acceptable is to do Nothing!    We've done nothing for over twenty years

Fathers vs. Daddys

a few random thoughts about fatherhood  here since Father's Day is upon us....  Everyone knows the biological part. and that anyone can be a father.  it takes  very little to help father a child,  BUT it takes someone Special to be a Daddy (or any variation of the word)....  a Daddy does more than just be a provider.  He  TEACHES!  He shows his children how to be a decent, caring, and contributing member of society.  He    SACRIFICES!  He put's his children's best interest ahead of his own.  Always!!..       the  BIG one....  He  LOVES.......   UNCONDITIONALLY!!.  Period.

i know there are some men who fall far short of these ideals.   SHAME on them!

As for me, I grew up in a fatherless home. I did not meet my Dad until I was 30 but now have a loving relationship.  He has elevated himself from being simply a father   to a Dad.   .. I, myself am a Dad to a  15 year old daughter .    despite some nice professional accomplishments, i have  ALWAYS maintained that being a  DADDY is my Best!    I  love you Sarah!

New beginnings

This blog will be about a variety of subjects and shades thereof, thus the tyedye inference.. today is about new  beginnings..   The biggest 'new beginnings' event in my life is   the massive stroke i had in 2002. I and/or my family was told multiple times that i would not live the night and they were almost right as I 'coded' more than once that night.     the next day the doctors said well ' he will never sit up in bed, much less walk again...     WRONG!    with the support of family and friends & the hard physical therapy I received in my 4 month stay in the hospital,I walk and function pretty normal with some disability due to a hemi-paresis  'left side weakness'.  I fight nueropothy and pretty low stamina, but I  AM HERE & FUNCTIONING..  I was given a NEW BEGINNING.    The next biggest new beginning is from when I finally found the LOVE OF MY LIFE after 51 years.  I reconnected with an old schoolmate. Rhonda northcutt, Spears and after working through multiple 'speedbumps, WE have both started a  NEW BEGINNING, starting with a wedding later this year......   The last NEW BEGINNING is of a financial nature.   after some close family members wiped me out, I am starting a  NEW BEGINNING financially, which will be a challenge when you live on a fixed disability income, know what though?    I AM a SURVIVOR and will get through this too!.