DIVORCE&FATHERHOOD II - a child's perspective

As previously stated, the real loser in a divorce is   the child that is deprived of one of their parents. which is usually the Father.   As a child,  As for me, I had to deal with the fallout of three divorces as a child.  The first was when I was just one year old. Although I did not feel the impact immediately, I paid the price in many ways throughout my childhood and teenage years as I was deprived of knowing my Dad's family due to decisions made by  him, my mom & her 2nd husband.   This in turn was indirectly responsible for my being molested when I was 9 by an Uncle from my mom's second husband's family   .    I was adopted by the 2nd husband and lost my birth name (Forest Carl Free II) as a result.   Missing out on knowing my Free family while growing up is another negative to that first divorce.   the next two divorces of my mom was from the same man.  Although he was never a good father, he was still the only one I thought I had until I was 16.   The bottom line for me  as a child, is I really missed out not having a father in my life  nearly my whole childhood.  Some may argue, but I will tell you that when possible, it is ALWAYS better for a dad to be included in a child's life.   Stay tuned for the next blog where I'll give some personal perspective from a Divorced Dad's point of view