a FAMILY ANALOGY

A family is much like a sports team. You have different types of family "players".  There is at least one "star" but most are " role players" with varying degrees of skill in being a family contributor.  There is usually at least one that contributes little and usually detracts from the  family "team".    The most dangerous one to the success  (happiness) of the family is usually one that overvalues their role.  Most families have at least one of these.  The parent(s) generally serve in a coach/manager role. but sometimes abdicate that to another which as you can imagine can lead to the creation of the aforementioned overvalued member. As with sports, the only way a family can be truly successful (happy) is for everyone to know their role and fulfill it.